Wednesday, March 25, 2009

~~ 80/20 Rule ~~

In most cases, especially in relationships, u will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that u WANT in ur relationship. There is always another person that u will meet and that will offer u the other 20% which is lacking in ur relationship that u WANT n believe me, 20% looks really good when u are not getting it at all in ur current relationship. But the problem is that u will always be tempted to leave that good 80% that u know u have, thinking that u will get something better with the other 20% that u want but as reality has proven, in most cases, u will always end up with having the 20% that u want n loosing the 80% that u really need and that u already had. Be careful in deciding between what u want n need in ur life.

Adultery happens when u start looking for what u don't have. 'Wow, this girl in my office is a real looker. But it's not her Wynona Rider features that got me. I'm crazy about her because she's also understanding, intelligent, tender - so many things that my spouse is not' Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And u will find a woman or man who will need u and pursue u and go loco over u more than ur spouse ever did. Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 80% of what you're looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 20%.

Let's say ur wife is melancholic by nature. You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says: 'I broke my arm yes terday, Hahahaha . . ..' Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic n fish oil, u may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits ur office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, n a red pencil-cut skirt or because ur husband is the quiettype, ur heart may skip a beat when u meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host. But wait! That's only 20% of what u don't have. Don't throw away the 80% that u already have! That's not all. Add to ur spouse's 80% the 100% that represents all the years that u have been with each other. The storms u have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that u've accumulated as lovers. Adultery happens when u start looking for what u don't have. But faithfulness happens when u start thanking God for what u already have.

But I'm not just talking about marriage. I'm talking about life! About your jobs. About your friends. About your children. About your lifestyles. Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he's missing? 'They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle n they've got personal videos!'I guarantee u'll be miserable for the entire trip! Don't live ur life like that. Forget about what the world says is first class. Do u know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class -- because they are not riding in a private Lear Jet?

The main message???If u start appreciating what u have right now, wherever u are, u are first class!

2 comments:

  1. is this what u say or u juz pick up this article somewhere??coz im sure ive read bout it somwhere...hmm(@-@)

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  2. wah....patut bagi kat sume orang yang tak reti nak hargaii pasangan nya...kan aja...ehehe

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